Americans and Europeans share many things: a commitment to fundamental democratic principles, a strategic alliance that has shaped the world order for more than half a century, and despite serious economic challenges in recent years, some of the highest living standards in the world.Still, there are notable differences across the Atlantic.It is just assumed that monogamy is rare, if not impossible, among lively people, and the question never comes up."Whether my friend's observation is true or not (for I have many European friends who do seem to care deeply about their mate's fidelity), it certainly does seem that Europeans see marriage differently than Americans do.Marriage is for stability, friendship, children; love is for the adrenaline highs and lows of sexual madness, the romance of being appreciated by anew person, the joys of flirting, pursuing, and clandestine coupling.Unlike Italian, French and Spanish men, who embrace the maturer woman and find Botox, fillers and surgery common and un-attractive.Age and confidence are sexier than breast implants and conversation about - and boy, do we welcome that.But the having and growing of children, gardens, libraries, and art collections seem to demand something more permanent than romantic love allows.And now I, too, am beginning to wonder whether the European way isn't more pragmatic, more intelligent, finally more durable.
Nations with higher levels of gross domestic product per capita tend to have lower percentages saying religion is very important in their lives. Americans and Europeans don’t always agree on questions about morality, especially on issues related to sexuality. And while adultery is widely frowned upon in the EU – except, notably, in France – Americans are even more likely to say having an affair is morally unacceptable.
Being thoroughly American (despite all the time I spend in Europe), my life has been a tribute to the American way of serial monogamy: passionate exclusive attachments, most of which have lasted about seven years.
I am a bonder, a marrier, who marries for love against all reason and who stays as long as love lasts.
American girl: She might suggest to share a plate...
she can also order a full hearty meal, like steak and fries.